Larascopy: BUDDING BEHIND YOU...

I want to appeal to someone
It may be you
Or you
It may be someone else you know
A man
A father
Who has sired a child
And it’s now sour between him and the mother of his child
And both have to part ways
And you shrug and just walk away
Not just from the woman but from your seed
The seed from your loins
The seed you planted
And you waltz off saying “when the child grows up he/she will ask after his/her father”.
And you leave a tender plant
You don’t water
You don’t manure
You don’t prune or weed
You don’t watch it grow
Neither do you shield it
And when the plant grows
And its seed ripe
You want it’s branch to crawl and curl up to you
To where you are, very far away…
Nature abhors that!
A curling plant only curls up to the shrubs around it…and, there is a limit to how far it can stretch….
To stay so far away and expect a plant to curl up to you at maturity is the height of adult delusion.
To abandon a child for whatever reason and assume that he/she will ask after his/her dad when he/she grows up is the height of irresponsibility and that’s for want of better expression.
Before that child matures..

Who nurtures?
Who feeds?
Who pays school fees?
Who pays hospital bills?
Who disciplines?
Who mentors?
Who prays for and prays with?

…Who abandons all of these and expect doses of reward in the future?

Wisen up man!
Wisen up dad!

If the mother shields you
What defence didn’t she put up when you were after her heart?
Didn’t you break down all walls to get her?
Some women can be nasty, I know
But there is always a way around our attempt at being responsible, by all means.
Open an account in the name of the child and give his mum details.
Drop you ‘widower’s’ mite as often as you are blessed to do and let her know, meanwhile, keep records.
Your son will see them one day.
There is always a day of reckoning when books will be open and accounts will balance. ..

Do your bit, man
Do your bit, dad
Be relevant in the life of your child..
For,
You can have an ex girlfriend
An ex fiancée
An ex lover
An ex wife…
…but you can never have an ex-living- child!
Even a dead child is not ex!
Wake up!!!